The Roaring 20s
Your 20s should be the best part of your life. It should be the time to visit new countries (Hello Europe), have outrageous careers (The Devil Wears Prada), and have love affairs that you might regret (better your 20s than 30s). What your twenties should not be is the time to make decisions that affect you for the rest of your life. It was only in 1977 where the average life expectancy was 73; those with more money lived longer than the less fortunate. Today we are expected to live much longer, many people have healthy lifestyles, and the retirement age for those in my age bracket might be pushed to 70 instead of 65.
Since we are living a longer time, it also seems as if the world is auto correcting itself by pushing back certain accomplishments. Most people are getting married later; having children later and pushing off many of the things we rushed to do because of age.
Twenty year olds have become teenagers; many still stay at home with their parents as if they are still in college. A marriage that happens in your twenties is twice as likely to end in divorce, but you can’t tell a 20 year old that because like teenagers, they know everything!
However, if you are a mature 20 something and you’d like to put yourself in a position for a successful long life, please consider my advice. If you love someone, wait until you are 30 to marry, if they are fabulous they will still be around. The gage we use as young women to pick boyfriends isn’t a good standard for a husband. Usually we have not had enough life experience to make a good decision.
I thought about this because in LA there are many divorces, celebrities get divorced all the time and I try to figure out what happened. Nine times out of ten, the couple was married when they were very young and grew up to be different people.
I look at celebrities tattooing their bodies, shaving their heads, having babies by random men, making immature decisions with an immature mind. Think about your future self, in her 40’s, with a prestigious career and a great circle of friends and ask yourself if she would be ok with the decision you make in your 20s.
I do it all the time.
When you date someone who is not up to your level, he might pressure you to commit, or have sex, or do things that are not in your best interest. Those guys are dangerous, but it’s very common, almost like a right of passage. Keep breathing and get through it and no matter what, don’t create lasting bonds with him.