Insecurity-The Silent Killer
We all have insecurities about something. The myth is that pretty women aren’t insecure, the reality is that no matter how pretty you are, there will always be someone prettier and sometimes their insecurity is about that. As a Playmate, I’ve seen, firsthand some of the most gorgeous women be insecure. Don’t get me wrong, we all have insecurities, I’m insecure about my intelligence and my tummy. I’m a smart girl but I know that there are so many areas that I could know more about and my tummy can be a flab monster sometimes.
Even though I’m insecure about these areas, no one would ever know unless they were close and even then I keep it to a minimum. I say this all the time and I will continue to say it, men like winners! Period.
A friend of mine called asking for advice around catching a guy she likes. From what she says, it seems that the he likes her, at least enough for her to try and get him. She fumbled a bit on an opportunity to spend quality time with him but she still got to hang out with him, in spite of herself.
I gave her all the tools she needs to have him ask her out. That’s the first step. I told her to flirt, be excited to see him, compliment him, and touch him when possible. She protested a bit but realized that since she is so hard to read this is the best way to position herself for potential success. I say potential success because even with all these great actions, if he doesn’t like her, he won’t bite.
After the conversation was done, she said “well, I don’t think I’m his type. I saw a girl come in for him and she was pretty with tattoos and she didn’t look very smart.”
That’s when I realized that she didn’t think she deserved him. I called her out saying that the only reason she won’t get him is because of herself and her insecurity.
She agreed. Listen ladies, you can’t change yourself if you don’t admit that there is something wrong, or at least “not working.”
Insecurity can range from loud and in your face to passive aggressive, but the purpose is always to keep you single. To deal with insecurity, take the focus off yourself and put it on someone else, be present, get out of your head, say positive things, smile. Make yourself beautiful! Don’t be insincere, be geniune. For example if you are on a date and a pretty woman walks past that catches your guys attention, instead of pretending that she doesn’t exist, just compliment her to the guy and smile all the while. Don’t push it off, embrace it, deal with it and let it go.
If the tattooed girl ever comes up, and it should not be mentioned by the girl, but if it does come up she should focus on the positive. And no matter what, she better not judge the girl. It always comes off weak and you look like a loser. Men like winners…say it with me.
MEN LIKE WINNERS! PERIOD.
So the next time you are tempted to think that a guy is too good for you and throw hate towards the person that you think he prefers more than you. Stop. Check yourself and be the beautiful loving woman that we know you to be.
What’s the worst insecure moment you’ve experienced?