So You Don’t Think You’re Cute
Feb
2013
2013
15
I was watching a show called Why Am I Still Single and one of the dating coaches mentioned that a client “acted pretty” and that was half the battle of finding a good mate. I’ve never heard that term, “act pretty” but after thinking about it, I like it.
Most women don’t generally “act pretty” because we weren’t taught to act that way. Some women even judge ”girly” girls. I’d like you to consider acting “pretty.” I have always enjoyed the attention of being pretty. Please don’t misunderstand me, being “pretty” has nothing to do with the way you look. It’s more of an attitude; and to be honest I can replace the word “pretty” with “femine”. I was taught to be pretty by my mother, and not all women teach their daughters to make the most of what they have and to not be afraid of the attention that comes along with it. Some women actually want their daughters to avoid any attention and make them ashamed. I remember when I was younger, girls would be labled “fast” and insulted with comments like “she think she cute.”
Boys never said this, other girls did.
Through deductive reasoning I’ve come to the conclusion that some of you were the girls who might have said comments like this or thought it, thereby alientating yourself from being allowed to be “cute” or “act pretty.” You are new women now and you can forgive yourselves, let go of the judgement and move on.
But move on in a pretty way, if you get my drift.
Why should you act pretty? What’s in it for you? You are rewarded by society with attention, popularity, gifts and boys. Really you are! Below I will give you the actions of “Pretty.” Practice them and see what happens. Come back and leave comments on how it affected those around you. When you have attention as a single woman, you then have options. Options position you to find a winner.
Winner, winner Chicken Dinner!
Dating is like looking for a job, you want to position yourself to get the best job you can get; same with men. When you have options you have a higher probablity of getting good guys.
I talked about this with a girlfriend who really disliked the “acting” word. Don’t mistake acting for being fake, it’s not the same. When I was in my early twenties I studied improv, our warm up exercise was to jump into an emotion and play it at level “10” from the start. What I learned from committing to that behavior is that it quickly became real. So by “acting” pretty you are faking it for a second then it becomes real.
I apologize in advance if you have low self esteem issues, I can’t help you with that. I can only help with the actions that make you look as if you don’t have insecurity issues.
For most men, pretty behavior correlates to femininity and it triggers something deep inside that makes them act like gentlemen. I have tested this theory so much and each time it’s the same. Men revel in the opportunity to show you that they are men. If being a lady encourages them to act like a gentleman, the opposite behavior gets the opposite results.
Simple huh?
The Actions of “Pretty”
- Smile - It all starts there also be very generous with your laughter.
- Lashes - For some reason full lush lashes just makes guys melt (buy them if you need to).
- Dress Like a Lady - There is nothing wrong with wearing a dress to meet someone, effort is a good thing
- Baby Talk - Speak softly and don’t be afraid to use “baby talk”. Look I have a degree and a career just like everyone else, but men, no matter how rich or poor, love damn baby talk.
- Listen- What does that have to do with being pretty? Listening to a man makes him feel more like a man and that will make you hotter to him.
Please note that pretty doesn’t mean half naked, sexually aggressive, trashy, air headed, bimbo and high maintenance.
**Tails**
Make a date special by dressing up, don’t worry if your date doesn’t, you can always meet someone else while you are out. That’s under the Benefits of Being Single Ladies :-)
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It’s funny because as a Black woman this goes against everything I was taught. My mom taught me that to be taken seriously I had to be serious & that’s always stayed with me.
Ok, my update is that I tried “acting pretty” on several dates and it worked really well.
All of these have worked for me and I don’t consider using them fake.
My monthly lash extension appointment is a necessity!
Claudia, I’m so glad I listened to Serria and got the lash extensions. Men take notice, and I will have lash extensions even when I retire to a rest home!